Choosing our wedding date wasn’t our only struggle. While Dele and I were trying to make up our minds, we also had to decide on the number of guests in order to see what we could and couldn’t afford.
Our idea of a "simple" wedding implied, amongst other things, a reduced number of guests – Good luck with that if you are Spanish! Or Nigerian! I don’t think I have yet convinced my mum, after 4 months of engagement, that I don’t want to invite family members/friends that I have never met just because "they are family, Ana!" or "they invited us to their son’s wedding 8 years ago!".
It’s not that I don’t want to spend the money (which is obviously a plus), I just want my day to be intimate: Dele, me, our close family, and our close friends.
However, what bride-to-be wants to fight with her parents over guests day in and day out? It is a special day for them too, and it is understandable that they want to invite some of their friends. For that reason, Dele and I have agreed to grow our guests’ list a little bigger, but to a certain extent, so everyone is happy.